@PapaJohn Thanks for sharing.

Makes total sense. Very effective approach.It is an essential point that many couples probably haven't realized or done: you need to focus on her to make her come. It is not something that can be easily and casually achieved "along the way".

If I may add: to make her is not equal to making her orgasm. The former is broader, much broader. Seductive touch, soft kiss, desire in his eyes, all adds to, sometimes even replaces,

@inanna @bots , ,
After 38 years of marriage & with sex better than ever, here is what we have figured out. They key for us, is completely focusing pleasure on one person at a time. 1st she gives me a blow job (My Pleasure), 2nd intercourse with her on top (MP/HP), 3rd 1st dildo & vibrator to her orgasm (HP), 4th intercourse w/me on top (MP), 5th 2nd, larger dildo and vibrator to her 2nd orgasm (HP), 6th intercourse w/me on top to orgasm. When finished we both collapse!!

55 | MeToo运动终于抵达中国了。

很好。

该给一些男性,以及一些女性补上这课了:女性有权力被尊重,女性应当被尊重,only yes means yes. 该被指责的是侵犯者,不是受害者。

希望这样的舆论一定要持久一些,好让这样的观念能下沉,再下沉一些。下沉到最落后的地方,下沉到最封建的人群。

50 | 请一定记住:床上之事,每个人都有特定的喜欢和厌恶的,每个人都有自己的口味和偏好 —— 每个人都不一样。

所以,或者在ta身上做各种"试验"并仔细观察/倾听ta的反应,或者干脆直接问ta喜欢什么。

50 | It is important to remember: everyone loves and hates certain things in bed; everyone has own tastes and preferences - everyone is different.

So, either test various things and carefully observe/listen to her/his reactions, or simply ask what she/he likes.

48 | While digging Wilde's quotes, I found this:

“Faithfulness is to the emotional life what consistency is to the life of the intellect – simply a confession of failures.”

So true. I'm speaking as an intellect. The lack of consistency sometimes drives me mad.

About faithfulness, I don't know. Would you really care if your partner is faithful or not, as long as she/he treats you and your relationship exactly like before and unchanged?

46 | “Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.”

Allegedly quote by Oscar Wilde. I don't agree with everything he said, but this one is so true.

So true that Frank Underwood quoted it to Zoe Barnes in Season 1.

Anyone has the clip? Episode 1-3, I believe.

之所以会爱上,也许是因为性所带有的权力意味。在性关系之中,总有一方征服,一方被征服,不论男男,女女,男女关系。

其中的男女关系,女性大概率上讲,是被征服的那一方。当她在性之中,感受到征服方的尊重、热爱、需求,也许会强化被征服的感觉,爱上这种感觉,爱上这种关系,爱上这个人。

45 | 据说,张爱玲在《色戒》里写过:

‘’到女人心里的路通过阴道。‘’

必须得是经历过由性开始、以爱结束、被伤害、猛然惊醒的过程,才能把话说得这么精准、透彻,一针见血、不留情面。

总觉得,这句话并不是说“女人会对睡过的男人念念不忘”,

而是说“女人会对带她发现了性有多愉悦的男人念念不忘”。

并不是睡过就会自动爱上他,而是:倘若他百般温存,花四个钟头做前戏,让你湿的彻底、高潮的精疲力尽,则大概率讲,你会爱上他。

欢迎拍砖。

37 | 我大概找到了终极宝典——如何正确有效的舔阴D:

bestsexpositions.com/video/how

视频全英文(无字幕)。视频的名字略粗陋,且是请了一位AV明星,全程近距离实拍。不习惯看A片的同学请适当做心理准备。

抛开这些不谈,真心推荐所有男性观看学习,所有希望给女伴愉悦的男性。视频里的教学内容非常全面,包括大量细节,准确、详实、全面、细致——我是以女性的身份在夸它。

此外,视频里还指出了一些A片里的常见错误。

37 | I think I found the ultimate guide to clit stimulation:

bestsexpositions.com/video/how

The name is a bit vulgar and the video is shot with a pornstar with zoomed view of real vagina.

If you can get used to it and put aside your prejudice, I really recommend the video as a must-watch for guys. It has everything, every little detail they need to know. Yes, I'm saying it as a woman.

Besides, the video points out some mistakes in porn.

43 | He sometimes sucks my toe and it is weirdly satisfying. I guess not all women are into it. But like they said: you never know if you've never tried.

25 | 如果你也像Bill Maher一样在感叹《五十度灰》何以走红,文学水平如何低下,电影如何烂,不妨这么想:

是女性喜闻乐见的A片,至少是部分女性。

你会用文学性和艺术性去要求A片么?显然风马牛不相及嘛。

18 | 为什么有的男生很会前戏,很能带给女生愉悦,而有的男生只会活塞运动,两分钟完事?我个人以为,一切都归因于自信和自我安全感。

26 | 今天偶然看到小诗一首,必须转发:

“整个福建,都在等台风

就像一个初恋的少女,等待男友

怕他不来,又怕他乱来

.......”

很准,很传神,很到位。

25 | I like Bill Maher and his show, so here a small helpful hint, for Bill and other men puzzled by going viral:

It is porn for women. At least for some women.

Do you ask porn to be good literature or good movie? No, because it's irrelevant.

21 | “女人的情欲如果在男人的手中逐步发动,大概不是因为这个男人按到了什么G点,更重要的原因是这个男人在女人身体上花了时间和心思, 达成了暖身的效果... 在调情的活动上,时间的长短比锁定某些看似撩拨的身体部位、姿势更为重要,男人的体贴耐心安抚了女人在亲密过程中对性的不安,让女人释放自己压抑的情趣。” —— 三木老师

20 | Not all women become emotionally unstable during periods. "She must be having her period." kind of comments are not only impolite, but also ignorant.
Some women do suffer from severe abdominal pain and are emotionally down; while some women can run half marathon and their moods and appetite are pretty much unaffected.

20 | 并非所有女性在大姨妈期间都会情绪失调。常见到用“大姨妈来了吧”明里暗里讽刺人的,挺讨厌的。
有的人腹痛得生不如死,情绪低落;也有的人能长跑20公里,吃嘛嘛香。

19 | "A (lucky) quarter of women can come from penetration alone."
I don't believe it.
It must be much lower than 25%.

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